Over thinking??

I recently noticed mine getting more n more philosophical these days… a new passion of decoding the essence of life has taken up on me from sumwhere… am constantly asking myself questions on ‘life’ n distributing free advises to all those interested/not-interested… am kinda getting lost amidst studies… of course the blame completely goes to my brain affected by the ‘over thinking syndrome’.

It so happened that a few days back in my coaching class, Sir gave a mathematics question which asked us to prove a ‘certain expression’ as wrong. No big deal, it was a easy question but then sumone from back murmured, “its so easy to prove sumthing is wrong but so tough to prove sumthing is right”. I just couldn’t come out of that thought. Talking of mathematical questions, proving an expression as right or wrong are like ‘pet’ questions. When asked to prove a question is wrong, there r so many ways of doing it but then to prove a question is right, there exist only one fixed method.

When I applied the same philosophy to Life, I was amazed to notice the analogy. It happened so many times with me. I tend to get too critical on people n can go on proving everyone wrong. Maybe one reason y I hardly get impressed by anyone. I don’t do it purposely but then I don’t know y I notice all the negative points first. Whenever I meet anyone, by default my eyes will notice if the shoes r polished, if nails r clean, if dress is pressed… at-times I need to remind myself that am not a school principal but a normal college going student!

Every second new person I meet will come under the category of “not my type” for me. Am not a big time socialite but then yeah I don’t leave my people so easily. Its “Once a friend, always a friend” for me but then only a few who cross all the filtration process get the label of ‘friend’. I can do anything for my friends. Anytime! Anywhere! Call me n I’ll b there… that’s what I always say n do. But then even friends get irritated of my getting into small small details n doing their critical analysis. Well of course there do exist a category of people around me who think am too rude n harsh n insensitive when I tell them on their face bluntly that I don’t approve their acts. So easy to disapprove!!

We meet so many people everyday sumwhere or the other, y is it that not everyone is our friend? I mean no one in this world is ever ‘Bad’ so as to say… but then if everyone is good, what is stopping them from entering the friend list? Am I the only one in this world facing this thing? Certainly not! Am sure everyone faces this… sometimes we know for sure that the other person will turn out to be very good friend of ours but still sumthing inhibits. I have disapproved so may like that… to quote an example, I would say Neha, the first day I met her in my under grad college, I completely disapproved her but then as time passed n her goodyness n strong personality surfaced, I realized how wrongly I judged her. Probably impulsive decisions can be a cause of not ‘everybody’ being our friend… but yeah all relationships demand ‘time’ n the more u give that, the more strongly the relationship bonds. Perhaps this is the secret behind ‘arranged marriages’… two complete strangers spending life together… uff!! Not ‘this’ topic again !

Judging others… how much is this act justified? Who are we to say if a person is right or wrong… who r we to say if we ourself do right things or wrong things… but then what decides? A mathematical expression can be easily solved n verified for being right or wrong but what about the ‘acts’ we perform in our life? Who is gonna judge that?? For me, what ever I do, is right! I can give 1000000 justifications for my act… millions n trillions of reasons… stupid idiotic senseless arguments… I can go on n on… but I don’t give an ear to others when they do the same for their acts. Stubbornness? Maybe… proudy… attitude problem… call whatever… that is what I am n am right ;)

In Physics, we have this thing called the ‘special theory of relativity’ given by my ever-green crush Mr. Einstein… according to which if an ‘observer’ is sitting on a tree n watching a train moving with uniform velocity, then for that observer the train is moving, but if that very observer is sitting inside that train, then for him the tree is moving. (If u don’t know physics, read d above lines again to understand!) Now neither of the observers is wrong. Its just their ‘frame of reference’ is different. When the observer sitting on the tree says the train is moving n the observer sitting in the train says that the tree is moving, neither is wrong n this fact is right! Same is the scenario in all the arguments n discussions that we do. Sumtimes what seems wrong to us will seems right if we consider the situation from other frame of reference. As a matter of fact, all that is categorized as ‘wrong’ in life can be made ‘right’ if we just change our perception! Ah! so easy to write n say… but d applications part is so tough!!